I can tell we could probably go back and forth and still come back with no middle ground
But to me that is the beauty of the character. Superman to many people is different and that is okay. I don't necessarily agree with the idea of the three identities because of the Superman I have grown up with for the past 21 years watching and reading about the character. I personally love the Lois and Clark show and consider it one of the best representations of the character but that is my personal opinion and I understand that some Superman fans don't or can't stand it. Just as some hate Smallville. But the beauty of the character is that he is adaptable to a multitude of people and provides entertainment to those fans all the time.
For me growing up I didn't need to see a unattainable Superman that I could never be like as I had self worth issues. But to see Clark, someone I could aspire to be in some ways be able to get the job, have fun, be in love and ultimately be successful in life meant a lot to me and helped shape my character through the years.
I still enjoy the Reeve version of Superman but only has nostalgia in a way. His Superman was the quintessential version of the SA Superman able to move time backwards and ultimately robbed of the one thing he wanted in life - Lois.
I think Bryan Singer said it best in his introduction to the Superman Returns movie guide:
"From those who came before me, to the hundreds of individuals who helped me make this film a reality, keeping the Superman torch lit was a monumental task made possible only by teamwork. Everyone involved brought their own unique skill, and applied it with the same passion that their predecessors did over the character's 68-year history.
Eventually it will be passed to someone else, and like me, they'll quickly realize how heavy it is. But also like myself, they'll have the support and strength of not just the artist around them, but all those who came before."
I don't envy Singer as he had to funnel all the various characterizations of Superman into one film and hope to satisfy people like you and me with two polar views of who Superman is. And the character of Superman will evolve over the years to something else that will come to mean something, to God willing, my children and to generations to come.
Comics are a dynamic form of mythology - always changing to something new or bad. We all have various ideas to us of what good and bad is and knowing that hopefully allows us to enjoy a medium that has brought all of us various forms of joy throughout the years.