I'm not saying the buyer is in the right here, a lot of it sounds certainly very suspicious, I am just saying rather that from what you've said it does seem you did the bare minimum as far as packaging is concerned. Who is to pay for that in the end though, I don't know, I was making no comment on that.
I just think that you should really put in a little more thought into packaging, if not to ensure that the buyer receives exactly what is advertised then at least to save yourself from getting into situations like this (assuming the package was legitimately damaged in the mail).
As far as who should pay in the end and what should happen, I think that's a debatable issue, but as to who's responsible for the package arriving damaged I'd say that definitely falls on you in this particular instance.
Particularly after I state to the seller "I will take the risk" by not having it insured to save on customs. If condition of the box was such a big deal, he should have let me insure it in full. No, the ****** want's full item protection and does not want to pay customs for it.
No, it probably
was a big deal to him that it arrived in the condition described but at the same time saving money by cutting corners probably spoke to him too. It's wrong of him, sure, it's definitely a d_ck move, but it shouldn't surprise you as much as it seems to.
On this matter, you also say he "should have let me insure it in full." This though was in reality up to you to grant or refuse. I understand why you would do it, a lot of people do, but you should at least accept and understand the role you played in that decision.
If my box got crumpled, my first reaction would not be "the seller owes me some money for this", my first reaction would be "Thank goodness my figure arrived in perfect condition" (which I assure you it did).
You seem to be overlooking that the box is a part of the product. It's part of what the person is buying. Just as you sit there and say "thank goodness" that your figure arrived in perfect condition, others look over the box and hope to say the same. While I don't worship the boxes, they certainly have their value, they're not the glorified shipping boxes that you're trying to make them out to be. Maybe you can't understand why people want the box to be of a certain condition, or why they want the box at all, but you should at least be able to accept that they have these wants.
You seem to at least recognise the value of the figure itself, that's good. In future, when sending items, perhaps a helpful exercise would be to think of the box as one big square figure and protect it as in just the same way you'd expect others to protect a loose figure that you might order online...
I think you're playing dumb here, really. Maybe I'm wrong but I would bet you advertised it as mint in the box, you described the condition of the box, etc, etc. I think you know perfectly well what a selling point the box's condition is and what a negative it would be if it was damaged or missing.
If your a mint in box collector, go and buy your stuff from a brick and mortar store. That way you can inspect the box to see if it meets your expectations.
The item sold out? Then take your chances on the bay, but expect that your item will take a few lumps in shipping.
This is a very strange attitude. While it may take a little time and effort, I assure you it is possible to ship an item from one place to another and have it arrive without any damage, millions achieve this every day. It's well within the abilities of all. I'd say that you definitely fall in the minority in your notion that shipping damage is part of all deals.
I think I'm coming off as argumentative here but I really don't mean to. I'm not trying to insult you either (although I do think you have a strange outlook and I'm wondering if it's not disingenuous). It's just overall I think a curious and fascinating situation, that's all I'm here for, I find it an interesting discussion is all.