Ahh, the rejection!

[devilof76]

. That never gets old...though I can no longer remember who originally said that.

Some spammer said it, but mr. thrifty made it awesome.

 

[fosing]

Some spammer said it, but mr. thrifty made it awesome.

YES. yes, he did.

 

[Solidus]

I've always wanted to know the history behind that phrase . Along with why people always tell Eli to "STFU". So many weird things with this board.

 

[CriterionCollector]

I've always wanted to know the history behind that phrase . Along with why people always tell Eli to "STFU". So many weird things with this board.

All Penguins fans need to STFU that's why.

 

[Lejuan]

Along with why people always tell Eli to "STFU". So many weird things with this board.

Discussed here in this thread: https://sideshowcollectors.com/forums/showthread.php?t=113119

Referring to this thread: https://www.sideshowcollectors.com/forums/showthread.php?p=834062#post834062

Buffy is a tremendous sculpt.. as long as you can ignore the hair. I suppose they could have chosen a more complex and detailed tailored outfit. That would have definitely helped to bring it out some more. But I just love the sexiness of the figure. Could it have been better? Yes. Could it be considered SideShow's worse? Hell no! If you think so, you obviously haven't seen Gandalf the White, the Captain Kirk and Spock PFs, or the coloured Nosferatu!

STFU Eli!!!!!

 

[Solidus]

^Lol! Thanks for the info. That first link that you posted should be on the list of Permathreads .

 

[devilof76]

Discussed here in this thread: https://sideshowcollectors.com/forums/showthread.php?t=113119

Referring to this thread: https://www.sideshowcollectors.com/forums/showthread.php?p=834062#post834062

What about war donkeys, monkey gods, recalcitrant, and Crix?

Hmmm? Tell us that, smartypants...

 

[Lejuan]

What about war donkeys, monkey gods, recalcitrant, and Crix?

Hmmm? Tell us that, smartypants...

those all broke the search engine

 

[devilof76]

As well they should.

 

[Batty]

Jeez, they talked online and went on one date.

As for why u deserve:

https://www.sideshowcollectors.com/forums/showthread.php?t=94790&highlight=Deserve

 

[Lejuan]

Well, I'm sorry for your loss here.

It's unfortunate to say, although as I get older, I find it to be truer and truer, is that there is a wide double standard when it comes to the grieving process. Every romantic interaction has some level of grieving associated with it when it ends IMHO. From people who have met for one day to a "Well, that sucks" and a shrug of the shoulders to people who spent a lifetime together and the widow or widower takes years to sort of find their path again. Obviously the level of "commitment" action or talk can accelerate those back end feelings.

She made a lot of "future" comments and you probably did too and that probably made the entire process worst. Unfulfilled potential is unpleasant, but unfulfilled potential across a spectrum is infinitely worse. I think a lot of people mistake the length of interaction to be completely related to the level of investment made by a person. Some people pour a lot of themselves into one place in a short amount of time.

The double standard is when women deal with grief, society and our culture and her peers are tolerant. They tell her everything will be ok, they will look to validate her feelings, many will listen to her. There are many avenues of discussion and support available. But if you are a guy dealing with your grief? Unless you had a dead child in play, then society expects you to shut up, suck it up and deal with it.

Best answer I can give you is to grieve in your own way and let it run it's course. Some people process it fast, some slow, everyone is different. It's healthy to to just take the time to let it run it's course. The thing is, unfortunately, is you are going to have to do it in private. You are going to have to learn to compartmentalize it and deal with it in a specific time and places, often from public view or knowledge. Don't expect any empathy from people, society, your ex or your coworkers. Any sign of public weakness to many will often be held against you, often forever. Fair or unfair, it doesn't really matter, it's the hand that all men are basically dealt.

Unfortunately we live in a day and age of high liability, so for your own best legal interests, I'd advise you to simply cease all contact with this person. Every call you make, every email, every interaction, is something that can be documented, cataloged, possibly reinterpreted or manipulated and later held against you. When pressed by their friends or their husbands or boyfriends ( lots of women, sadly too, don't share that tiny detail), it doesn't take much for a woman to say you choked her, pushed her against a wall, threatened her, beat her, raped her, intimidated her, stalked her, etc, etc. Our society is set up that you are guilty as soon as you are accused, the truth is inconsequential, perception is all that matters. Some women will push this angle because they truly are victims, some will push it because they like attention, some will use it to deflect feeling badly about their choices, some will do it because they are simply nuts. The here and why is less important than this one distinction - in any male/female interaction that goes south, the western law and legal system will decidedly work to the males disfavor consistently across the board. They, women, have the right to choose and cease interaction. And that's ok. Men, to their interests, have a right to find the avenue to best legally protect themselves. I think that's only fair as well.

I'm a big believer in giving people ultimately what they want in the end, after you've found your way through your grieving. If they want you out of their life, then proceed to make yourself a person completely out of their life. You don't want to know what they are doing or up to, and you don't want them knowing what you are doing and up to in life. Just live a good life and treat yourself well. And if you happen to run into them in the future in town, then don't make it a point to avoid them, but don't make it a point to talk to them. If they approach you, simply wish them the very best in all things and thank them and then keep walking.

Whatever answers you are looking for, you won't likely find them. The only "cure" is simply time. Time heals all wounds, well most of them and for the most part. You just have to do it in silence. I always find it amusing when most men don't emote anything and many women in real life and on TV/movies are baffled by it, without considering a lifetime of conditioning and the harsh punishment our society, particularly women, dishes out to any type of perceived weakness in any male at any time.

I'd rethink also whether this community is the best place to release part of your grief. There are a lot of good people on this site, but in general, it can be a pretty hostile place for the sake of being hostile. There are probably other websites or boards more in tune to this kind of topic and other people going through the same thing who can help support each other.

Again, for what it's worth, I'm genuinely sorry for your loss.

.

 

[fosing]

^honestly, did you actually read it?

 

[Solidus]

Jeez, they talked online and went on one date.

As for why u deserve:

https://www.sideshowcollectors.com/forums/showthread.php?t=94790&highlight=Deserve

 

[Lejuan]

^honestly, did you actually read it?

I found it oddly compelling. I imagined some lonely 40-something back-to-college nerd typing all that while his roomie was on the other side of a paper-thin wall having rambunctious sex with a supremely hot chick.

 

[Frank]

Well...

Haha, now that was inspired! Allow me to sum up:

Don't listen to James Taylor music.

I think CC's frustration, which I think is common to all men, is the seemingly unpredictable behavior and mixed signals that females exhibit on a fairly regular basis. In the romance department, the ladies employ a type of emotional judo on their men to redirect all that energy which from their standpoint, must be a tiny bit overwhelming. That's ok when they feel like being overwhelmed (hence the urge for bad boys/dirty talk) but when they want more autonomy they can be marvels of social engineering. The sliding scale of manipulation goes from migraines to poisoned coffee. Hopefully you find someone who genuinely likes you, and true compatibiliy is pretty rare.

 

[fosing]

I found it oddly compelling. I imagined some lonely 40-something back-to-college nerd typing all that while his roomie was on the other side of a paper-thin wall having rambunctious sex with a supremely hot chick.

well, i didn't bother.

too many words.

 

[Vader AL]

Haha, now that was inspired! Allow me to sum up:

Don't listen to James Taylor music.

I think CC's frustration, which I think is common to all men, is the seemingly unpredictable behavior and mixed signals that females exhibit on a fairly regular basis. In the romance department, the ladies employ a type of emotional judo on their men to redirect all that energy which from their standpoint, must be a tiny bit overwhelming. That's ok when they feel like being overwhelmed (hence the urge for bad boys/dirty talk) but when they want more autonomy they can be marvels of social engineering. The sliding scale of manipulation goes from migraines to poisoned coffee. Hopefully you find someone who genuinely likes you, and true compatibiliy is pretty rare.

Women run off of emotion, men run off of logic.....emotion is erratic, logic is consistent.

 

[Jen]

Thanks for all the links to the Why U Deserve. How could I forget where such a classic phrase came from?

 

[Solidus]

Women run off of emotion, men run off of logic.....emotion is erratic, logic is consistent.

 

[thecapn]

I thought MeatHook's post was actually really well thoughtout and written - and gives a great piece of advice about how people (USUALLY women in this case, but that's more because of societal impressions than actual FACT) can twist actions as if you've done something wrong or MORE wrong than they have.

Case in point: I have a good friend who moved to Florida some years ago for a job. He became friends with his boss, they went out drinking, etc, and friends with the boss's wife. The idiot (he's a friend, I feel ok saying that) ended up sleeping with his boss's wife, and the boss found out. Now, the reality is that they were both responsible. But the wife didn't want to fess up, and claimed rape, that he drugged her. I to this day have no idea what she pulled out in front of the jury to make it stick, but he ended up in jail for several years. I believe him - the guy's like a brother to me - but even if it doesn't get that nuts, man, you could quickly find yourself with lawsuits, restraining orders, the works. Never had that problem personally, but I could see it happening VERY easily.