Bamboota
Super Freak
Re: Anyone ever have to relocate becuase of their spouse?
Nerd/Geek girls get stuck in the Friend Zone
So what are u trying to say?
Nerd/Geek girls get stuck in the Friend Zone
So what are u trying to say?
Thanks man. But my question is, what's a normal time frame for someone to start moving on?!?!? I mean, the thing is I just moved out here to LA so I don't have many CLOSE friends... Sure I've met people, but of course it'd be easier to move on if I had the comfort of family and friends I've known for all my life. But I don't have that luxury right now, so it feels very difficult to shake this off my mind........
It depends mate, I don't think anyone can give you a definitive 'it takes x weeks then you will be happy again'.Thanks man. But my question is, what's a normal time frame for someone to start moving on?!?!? I mean, the thing is I just moved out here to LA so I don't have many CLOSE friends... Sure I've met people, but of course it'd be easier to move on if I had the comfort of family and friends I've known for all my life. But I don't have that luxury right now, so it feels very difficult to shake this off my mind........
Nerd/Geek girls get stuck in the Friend Zone
Could be the same way for guys though...
It depends mate, I don't think anyone can give you a definitive 'it takes x weeks then you will be happy again'.
After I moved to Glasgow (from Leeds) for my then GF, then we broke up I was in the same position. When it first happened and we broke up I went home to Leeds and a had a long weekend with my life long friends (I'm estranged from the blood relatives). Then I went back to Glasgow and all I did was throw myself into my work. Thankfully I met a lot of new friends that way so we had nights out after work, a house warming for my new flat and stuff like that.
Just try be happy, go home to see your loved ones, but don't see her as it will just make things more difficult. See your friends/family, concentrate on yourself and helping you feel better.
A big part is that you will prolly still be in the 'we' mindset, you have to start thinking of just you now.
Take as much time as you need, most of all relax and enjoy yourself. You will soon find that you wake up one day and she is a distant memory.
Feel better pal
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Thanks for sharing your personal experience. I guess I was just curious what kind of time frame/stages other people went through.... Like how many weeks/months did this just EAT them up inside (couldn't sleep, eat, focus). I find myself still unable to sleep properly, and still can't focus in school.....
I agree that NO contact is the best, since every time I have made an effort to contact her it's been nothing but destructive.... When she has NO interest in speaking to me, there's no point anymore. So I'm going back to Florida for two weeks on May 5-21. I know now that I really need to stay away, and that's what I plan to do.... There's no point in seeing her, or even contacting her when I'm in town. She apparently gives two chits about my life, so I'll do the same in return. I just hate how people proclaim "Oh, I just care about you WAY too much....." That's such a load of crap. If she even remotely cared she wouldn't be treating me like such a prick....
Thanks for the input though folks
I'm approaching three months since i split with my girl of 4 years. Not a moment goes by i dont think about her. Very depressing, particularly because i've gone through Valentines day, my birthday and on 4/21, her birthday. What i will say is though, it does get easier and going out with your friends helps this. So far i've dated two girls and got 'into the knickers' of another girl but its still feels too early for me to move on..
You'll know when the time is right. It will just happen. You just have to go out and do things and not mope about it.
You'll be back with this girl and create another thread about it before we know it.
I think even if she pulled something like a "I want you back situation" the argument would still be NULL for me.
Done. Gone.... Bye bye!
I like your use of null.
Didn't want to say I told you so, and I know it's hard to listen from outsiders....but peeps with this experience, I've seen it a million times with friends, family and what not.
Please let this be the nail in the coffin for you Chris.
I told you so.....
Didn't want to say I told you so, and I know it's hard to listen from outsiders....but peeps with this experience, I've seen it a million times with friends, family and what not.
Please let this be the nail in the coffin for you Chris.
I told you so.....
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