What is Right Age for Marriage

[DHAVAL]

Of course it does. Just because you can't keep it together doesn't mean it's the case for others.

There's just too many lazy SOBs not willing to work at keeping a relationship alive. Generations are so entitled and spoiled now that they think passion and infatuation felt in the early stages of a relationship is what they "deserve" at all times. I've seen so many relationships break apart over the stupidest things. Other times I see people turning their relationship into shackles for their partner. We have a friend who's boyfriend won't refuses to get married and have children. Two things she really wants. He get's pissed when she books vacations or goes shopping. He's a damn jerk for restricting her so tightly. She's nuts for sticking with him.

A long term healthy relationship takes effort, planning and lots of communication. There are always horrible times during any relationship. People are just so ADD that they can't seem to endure and fight to make it work. They would rather give up and move on. Enjoy waking up middle aged and alone.

People don't get out anymore either. There are so many activities and many require little to no funds to participate in. Have fun, meet people. Do double dates with friends. Take up classical dancing lessons, eat cuisine you never tried or take cooking classes together. Putting some variety in your life gives you plenty to talk and laugh about.

Personally I enjoy coming home to someone who is excited to see me. Someone I can share my day with. Someone I can be myself with. We put on so many masks throughout the day that it's nice to just be myself with my wife. When times are bad, I know she is there to lift my spirits up and vice versa. She encourages me in my endeavors as I do with hers. You realize how much you love someone when you find yourself making all kinds of small sacrifices for this person without them realizing it. You also find yourself not seeking credit for it. It was your pleasure to do it.

Life with a partner is much more enjoyable. I dredd the thought of waking up alone and comming home to no one. Get out there. Video Games and Statues are nothing more than temporary and empty entertainment. I'd burn all my posessions without a second thought if need be.

Now with my 10 week old daughter, it's even sweeter. I didn't think it was possible to "love" something so much. The wife and I are having the time of our life with the baby. Went to see Skyfall with the baby when she was 5 weeks old. Saw the Hobbit this week-end with her being 10 weeks old. She let go a super loud crap just as the credits rolled and the film fell silent. My wife and I burst out laughing.

Ya... Love doesn't exist my ass.

 

[Jameson Rook]

This question comes in our mind once in a while here r so many collectors who r all-ready Married. I m asking all of you what is riGht age to get Married?? Do u guys think there should be Specific Age for Marriage, also share your Experiance on Life after Marriage

I don't know if there's a scientific answer to that, but if I was to give my opinion on the matter Dhaval, I'd say the perfect age is when you're financially and emotionally secure, as in you have enough money to live, give to charity, take care of your family and indulge yourself in this hobby. You have a stable job, & you have your financials secured and accounted for.

As for being emotionally stable, that means that you are fine enough to live life on your terms. You're not living to appease people, and you couldn't care less of what people think about you.

I have plenty of friends who get married due to family pleasure, or they fell like they are missing out, or they think they want a child, and I've seen them pretending to be happy, but they had to sacrifice their hobby, late night drinks, etc, and worse of all they didn't seemed as happy as they were when they were single. I think no marriage is without sacrifices, and you have to keep that in mind and be prepared to actually make those sacrifices when the time comes.

Like I said, that's just my opinion, in no way that should be treated as fact.

 

[DHAVAL]

I don't know if there's a scientific answer to that, but if I was to give my opinion on the matter Dhaval, I'd say the perfect age is when you're financially and emotionally secure, as in you have enough money to live, give to charity, take care of your family and indulge yourself in this hobby. You have a stable job, & you have your financials secured and accounted for.

As for being emotionally stable, that means that you are fine enough to live life on your terms. You're not living to appease people, and you couldn't care less of what people think about you.

I have plenty of friends who get married due to family pleasure, or they fell like they are missing out, or they think they want a child, and I've seen them pretending to be happy, but they had to sacrifice their hobby, late night drinks, etc, and worse of all they didn't seemed as happy as they were when they were single. I think no marriage is without sacrifices, and you have to keep that in mind and be prepared to actually make those sacrifices when the time comes.

Like I said, that's just my opinion, in no way that should be treated as fact.

some great post n good points in this thread

 

[DHAVAL]

hay friends what your thoughts abt ArranGe Marriage..................

 

[DHAVAL]

I think most of you prefers love marriage ....

 

[blue_rogue]

I'm 38 and have never married, though I've been living with my gf for over 13 years now. Most of my friends who have married were divorced within a few years, some more than once. If it ain't broke don't fix it.

 

[Darkseed]

right before death........

 

[The Ween]

hay friends what your thoughts abt ArranGe Marriage..................

It's totally stupid. A person should marry who they want to marry, not someone who was picked.

 

[The Ween]

right before death........

Actually, right before you start collecting SS or your pension. Before that it's unnecessary anymore. At least in this country.

 

[The Ween]

I'm 38 and have never married, though I've been living with my gf for over 13 years now. Most of my friends who have married were divorced within a few years, some more than once. If it ain't broke don't fix it.

Totally agree. The only bad thing is, if something would happen to you, especially when you're older, your girlfriend won't be entitled to some things that she would be as a wife. Even common law doesn't cover all of them.

 

[DHAVAL]

I have seen my 1st love yesterday allmost after 5 years my heart beat increased...... i was on bike so i followed her n seen her 4 times coming from infront but i didnt dared to talk to her..... i m still obsessed ..

 

[DHAVAL]

we r not in contct after my 11th std n still have feelings for her.... i m going for holiday today ..... i was happy that i m going on holiday n after seeing her yesterday .......well friends i m going to GOA today so i will enjoy .......

 

[Hydeous]

I have seen my 1st love yesterday allmost after 5 years my heart beat increased...... i was on bike so i followed her n seen her 4 times coming from infront but i didnt dared to talk to her..... i m still obsessed ..

In some countries, thats considered as stalking man.

we r not in contct after my 11th std n still have feelings for her.... i m going for holiday today ..... i was happy that i m going on holiday n after seeing her yesterday .......well friends i m going to GOA today so i will enjoy .......

get that thing fixed man

 

[Gates70]

I have seen my 1st love yesterday allmost after 5 years my heart beat increased...... i was on bike so i followed her n seen her 4 times coming from infront but i didnt dared to talk to her..... i m still obsessed ..

we r not in contct after my 11th std n still have feelings for her.... i m going for holiday today ..... i was happy that i m going on holiday n after seeing her yesterday .......well friends i m going to GOA today so i will enjoy .......

WTF ?!?!

 

[Blackthornone]

hay friends what your thoughts about Arranged Marriage..................

I think that in theory, it could be very good, as it eliminates the anxiety of trying to find a mate and gives you peace of mind to get on with other things and focus more on them for more success. It all comes down to the wisdom of those picking, obviously. If those picking have a profound sense of people and their personalities, and can sense those in children, they could be a good matchmaker, and would lead to a happy marriage.

The most important thing is whether or not you have a happy marriage with a compatible mate, and not whether you were the one who consciously picked them or not. Look at all of the unhappy and failed marriages resulting from people who actually picked their own mates. It just goes to show that some people don't know how to pick a mate and some people do.

If my parents picked a great mate for me that was the right one, as good as or better than one I could find myself, what do I care if I didn't pick her? If the personality match is good, I find her extremely attractive, the sex is phenomenal, and she can be trusted, what would I really have to complain about?
If someone gave you a a a car that was the best car you could imagine for yourself, would you complain that you didn't pick it out yourself, or would you see it for what it was, and just enjoyed it?
Some people let their egos get in the way of true happiness in life.

 

[The Ween]

I think that in theory, it could be very good, as it eliminates the anxiety of trying to find a mate and gives you peace of mind to get on with other things and focus more on them for more success. It all comes down to the wisdom of those picking, obviously. If those picking have a profound sense of people and their personalities, and can sense those in children, they could be a good matchmaker, and would lead to a happy marriage.

The most important thing is whether or not you have a happy marriage with a compatible mate, and not whether you were the one who consciously picked them or not. Look at all of the unhappy and failed marriages resulting from people who actually picked their own mates. It just goes to show that some people don't know how to pick a mate and some people do.

If my parents picked a great mate for me that was the right one, as good as or better than one I could find myself, what do I care if I didn't pick her? If the personality match is good, I find her extremely attractive, the sex is phenomenal, and she can be trusted, what would I really have to complain about?
If someone gave you a a a car that was the best car you could imagine for yourself, would you complain that you didn't pick it out yourself, or would you see it for what it was, and just enjoyed it?
Some people let their egos get in the way of true happiness in life.

How are you going to know if the sex if phenomenal or that she can be trusted BEFORE you marry her if it's arranged? It's not like you're going to spend a whole lot of time with her before hand and you certainly can't have sex with her. Believe me, arranged marriages aren't for YOUR happiness as much as it is for your parents and what they'll gain from it.

 

[Lejuan]

Believe me, arranged marriages aren't for YOUR happiness as much as it is for your parents and what they'll gain from it.

The point of arranged marriages typically isn't anything to do with matching personalities or attraction or sexual compatibility. It's to join families together so that wealth and power is, in effect, combined and effectively managed. Arranged marriages and concubines/mistresses go hand in hand.

 

[Blackthornone]

How are you going to know if the sex if phenomenal or that she can be trusted BEFORE you marry her if it's arranged? It's not like you're going to spend a whole lot of time with her before hand and you certainly can't have sex with her. Believe me, arranged marriages aren't for YOUR happiness as much as it is for your parents and what they'll gain from it.

Like I said, it all depends upon the person who picks. That is the person who needs to know how they will match up, and also would know what the experience would be like. Since it is an arranged marriage, you might know nothing of the person before they are picked. The person that it is picking would need to be really psychic. Some people are and can read people really well. Some people cant read people well at all, and it doesn't really matter much that they "get to know" the other person before marriage.

There are people who can read other people without at first glance better than other people can know other people after spending 25 years with them. People can hide things for years about themselves and then others are surprised when they do something new that seems out of character, but the reality is that they never really understood them at all, and it actually was very much in character.

A highly psychic person could tell that about a person without spending much time with them. Some people are gifted in reading people and others aren't. What I'm saying is that it is best to consult the most competent person possible to determine the compatibility of the mate. With so few people who are gifted at reading others extremely well, it stands to reason that if these few people are the ones arranging marriages, there would be a lot more happy marriages, rather than leaving it to the individuals to get married to determine whether they are right for each other, when neither of them are really psychic at reading people.

Marriage is a big investment. Why leave a successful marriage to chance when you don't have to?

Bottom line is that there have been many happy arranged marriages, because if none of them were happy, then no one would ever go along with it. Granted, there are a lot of bad ones, but then, there are a lot of marriages that are just as bad that weren't arranged marriages.

I think that the subject of lack of free will in marriage will come up, so I will touch on that.
There can be happy arranged marriages, and if a soul does not want an arranged marriage, my advice is not to be born into a family that believes in them.

If the soul exists and it has free will, it must logically be able to choose which family it is born into,or if it is born at all, otherwise, true free will cannot exist. The only way that free will can truly exist is if someone has the ability to make every choice at EVERY point in one's existence. Otherwise, what you have is merely a limited degree of options in a certain situation.

 

[Cap'n Cook]

In some countries, thats considered as stalking man.



get that thing fixed man

I'm getting married this year and I will be 26.

 

[Hydeous]

I think that in theory, it could be very good, as it eliminates the anxiety of trying to find a mate and gives you peace of mind to get on with other things and focus more on them for more success. It all comes down to the wisdom of those picking, obviously. If those picking have a profound sense of people and their personalities, and can sense those in children, they could be a good matchmaker, and would lead to a happy marriage.

The most important thing is whether or not you have a happy marriage with a compatible mate, and not whether you were the one who consciously picked them or not. Look at all of the unhappy and failed marriages resulting from people who actually picked their own mates. It just goes to show that some people don't know how to pick a mate and some people do.

If my parents picked a great mate for me that was the right one, as good as or better than one I could find myself, what do I care if I didn't pick her? If the personality match is good, I find her extremely attractive, the sex is phenomenal, and she can be trusted, what would I really have to complain about?
If someone gave you a a a car that was the best car you could imagine for yourself, would you complain that you didn't pick it out yourself, or would you see it for what it was, and just enjoyed it?
Some people let their egos get in the way of true happiness in life.

How are you going to know if the sex if phenomenal or that she can be trusted BEFORE you marry her if it's arranged? It's not like you're going to spend a whole lot of time with her before hand and you certainly can't have sex with her. Believe me, arranged marriages aren't for YOUR happiness as much as it is for your parents and what they'll gain from it.

Moral of the story; test drive a car before you purchase it

Just because it's a arranged marriage doesn't mean you cant go out with her/get to know her before the wedding date.