Re: Big Chief Studios - 1/6 Doctor Who - #04 Tom Baker
I just heard about this, so I came back specifically to say how truly and honestly sorry I was to hear about his loss.
We had a disagreement quite recently, it got a bit heated, as sometimes tends to happen between those passionate about a subject, but who differ on the details, but despite anything I may have said at the time, I meant him no ill will, and I am truly saddened by his loss. He was a fellow fan, a fellow collector, and someone who wore his passions on his sleeve, which I always respected, and whether we agreed over something or not, the board, and I suspect the world at large, is a lesser place for his loss.
I feel shamed that some of his final time on this earth was spent in pointless argument with me. It may take two to tango, but I regret my part in it deeply, and suspect that had the opportunity arisen, all would have been forgiven and moved past in the fullness of time by us both. We passionate fans and collectors may butt heads occasionally, but few of us hold on to petty grudges, some times we just need to take a step back and simmer down a little. So I stepped away for a while, but I never dreamed that would be our final encounter, particularly after so many fun and interesting conversations in the past.
My sincerest condolences to his wife, his friends, and his family.
Parrot, you had no way of knowing that DGT Woodward would die when he did. There was unresolved conflict between the two of you. Death happens. You can't let this eat you up, trust me, I know.
People argue online every day. It's a fact of life. That this
is all done with the other person living far away makes it easier to engage in arguments. I work at
not saying something to someone online that I would not say in
person.
My partner of 17 years, George, died almost 16 years ago.
I had said some really stupid things to him just 10 days before he had the accident that killed him. I had planned
to apologize and explain myself to him the very night that he died at dinner, but he died at around 5 pm, January 31, 1998, before we could have that meal together.
I never got to say those things to him.
I felt horrible for a time, but then, it did get better.
I only feel bad once in a great while now about this.
I'm told this is normal.
I know I will see him again, and I am very certain that he'll
tell me it's okay, there is no apology needed.
You've got to tell yourself that it is okay.
You're human. Things like this happen a lot more than you
realize.
DGT would NOT want you to feel badly, nor would he wish
for you to continue tormenting yourself.
I'm sure he is not angry at you now.
So, do something to make yourself feel better:
See a movie with friends. The new Hobbit movie is
awesome!
Go out to dinner, clean your living quarters if it needs to be
done, start a creative project, talk with a friend, read a good
book - anything to break the hold that the negative feelings
have on you.
Do anything constructive that you can think of, okay?
You will feel better in time. Time does help things, you know?
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