Well, here is to hope that my collection survives!

[KitFisto]

Well,

Looks like I might bet kicking my fiance out in the new few weeks ( too many anger management issues and her kid is a brat beyond belief ). She has a bit of a bad temper and has broken things before ( remotes and such ). None of this stuff surfaced before she moved in. I pray I don't come home and find my Starw Wars, LOTR and other stuff all smashed as she knows what it all means to me.

If anything gets destroyed I will be sure to post pics of the carnage. I am going to try to be home when and if it comes to her leaving so I can make sure nothing gets trashed.

[galactiboy]

Might be a good idea to stash some of your items away before it comes to any arguments. Also you could always take photos of you collection so that if there is destruction you at least have a visual record of what was destroyed before-hand... good luck.

[Darth Loki]

Get it insured!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have Allstate and they actually have some sort of policy for collectibles and it covers breakage as well. You may want to look into it.

And I feel your pain dude. Women are never easy to deal with. If you're in the area soon we'll go get some beers together.

Good luck!

[abstractharmony]

If I were you, I'd box it all up and move it to a friends house for a coupla days before you do the deed.

Saves any after the fact problems!

[King Darkness]

GET HER OUT AND GET HER OUT NOW!!!!!!

If she has anger issues that cause her to brake or damage things this is not the kind a marrige you want to enter into, believe me....Thats to bad to hear though, I hope everything works out ok for you Kit...best wishes:o..

[tomandshell]

Wow--I hope you can work things out. If not, change the locks and then do the break up elsewhere if you are concerned about damage! :monkey2

[King Darkness]

Wow--I hope you can work things out. If not, change the locks and then do the break up elsewhere if you are concerned about damage! :monkey2
Yes, like Tom said, do the breakup in a public place...theres less chance for violence and if there is at least you have witnesses....

[KitFisto]

I had thought of moving it, but that would take days to pack it all up including digging boxes out of storage.

The insurance thing would be something to look at though.

I think my best bet might just to make sure I am home when/if I ask her to leave. That way if she trys to start anything at all, I will just call the cops on her and have her removed.

Why are women so damn psycho? Not all mind you, but many.

[KitFisto]

Wow--I hope you can work things out. If not, change the locks and then do the break up elsewhere if you are concerned about damage! :monkey2


She lives with me so has to come home and pack her stuff up and find a place to move. Just hope she does not go all :emperor on me.

[tomandshell]

You can always try proposing. That might freak her out and she will leave on her own. :D

[King Darkness]

Or............ you can let her "catch" you trying on some of her clothes...if that doesn't get rid of her you have a bigger problem on your hands:D

[KitFisto]

:rotfl :rotfl :rotfl

[tomandshell]

Or think of the freakiest thing possible and tell her you have always wanted to try it... :google

[occulum]

A) get your most prized pieces out of harms way
B) sneak her key to the place away from her w/o her know just before the bomb drops.
C) Swallow your pride and act like your SOOO sorry for having to break it off and be as nice as possible, but as stern as possible at the same time. let her know its not a choice though and that it has to end.

I'd also take some pics of the place in case she throws a fit or anything else.

Its tough to suck up for the break up, but its so much easier in the long run to delay all the drama and trash talkin til all ties are completely severed. Mainly after she doesnt have a key to your place anymore.

Good Luck!

[tomandshell]

Seems to me that any sneaky attempt to avoid an emotional reaction on her part will just short-circuit the breakup process and lead to an even greater (and potentially more volatile) emotional response in the long run. :monkey4 The "easy way out" will only cause more trouble than just sitting down and talking your way through it.

Although I still say you just ask her to take pictures of you indulging your twin loves of necrophilia and bestiality at the same time. :sick And if that doesn't drive her away, just tell her you're a Republican. That will lower your approval ratings in a heartbeat... :D

[occulum]

The "easy way out" will only cause more trouble than just sitting down and talking your way through it.
thats the problem. The "throwers" Ive known lack rationality and the ability to talk through anything without overreacting and then ---- dun DUN!!--- throwing your ^^^^^ :lol
Seriously. People who react by breaking stuff are usually not capapble of hearing the truth about themselves with an open mind. They react with aggression and denial.
Hopefully Im wrong though

[KitFisto]

She can't hear anything through her anger. She can't communicate her feelings through her anger filling emotions. That's why she throws stuff. The more TRUTH I giver her the madder she gets. The more she hears about her issues the madder she gets. If I had ever seen this side I would have NEVER had her move in with me.

Oh, and she already know I am a republican, just not a fan of W. :monkey3

[tomandshell]

"If you've got an issue, here's a tissue." :monkey2

[Greedo]

If I were you I would do 2 things:

1 - Change the locks on your house the day you tell her.
2 - Also pack all her stuff up before she comes home and leave it all outside so she doesn't need to come in the house.
3 - Call cops before you do it, just to give them the heads up :lol

She's not common law is she? If she is you might as well let here break the statues that will be her's after the lawyers are done :D

Or you could just give her one of these :emperor

Good Luck!

[KitFisto]

Nope, NOT common law! She's only lived with me for 9 months.

[Batty]

In all seriousness Kit, I hope it works out for you. You should tell her someplace neutral and then have some of your friends and family around when she moves her stuff out. This way you're not facing her alone and she might think twice about doing anything destructive. Definitely change all your locks asap. It wouldn't hurt to photograph everything, too. I've got pics of all my stuff just for insurance reasons.

[Customikey]

The mere fact that the collection is the first thing on his mind implies that this relationship is doomed.

During the worst fight I ever had with my wife, I offered her a figure to destroy. She wouldn't do it. And this was the height of her anger, mind. I knew she was The One before (she loved me when I had Star Wars toys on EVERY INCH OF MY ROOM), but this only reinforced that I was right.

Oh, and good luck...:D

[Darth Loki]

Me and my girlfriend got into a fight last night and she said she was going to break my X-Men vs. Sentinel Excl. I knew she was just saying it because she knows I love my collection more than her.

Kit, you can hide you really cool stuff at my house for a while and then I can at least pretend like I have a mega collection like Tom's.:D

[pixletwin]

My wife threatened to toss Luke out the window as we were driving home with him for no other reason than because she was annpoyed I didn't want to go shopping! :google

[DarkArtist81]

My Fiance is awesome... I'm so glad she remains rational about the collection. She does know that she matters more to me than any of that. I'd smash Patient Zero with a hammer, smiling all the way if she made me choose, just to show my devotion to her.

Thankfully, for this level of love... I am awarded with her desire to enhance my collection's display, and with the understanding that my little hobby is paramount to my very existence. Her words sum it up best....

"Most guys are into cars, other women and drinking at tittie bars with their friends... I'm kinda happy that your worse vice is collecting figures and statues... It could be worse.... much worse."

Kit, I understand your pain though... I've had the destructive type.. The girl who goes for the heart, knowing what to do... what will hurt you most. :monkey2

[Customikey]

My Fiance is awesome...

"Most guys are into cars, other women and drinking at tittie bars with their friends... I'm kinda happy that your worse vice is collecting figures and statues... It could be worse.... much worse."

Kit, I understand your pain though... I've had the destructive type.. The girl who goes for the heart, knowing what to do... what will hurt you most. :monkey2


Damn, DK! My wife said almost the exact same thing!! How weird is that! The funny thing is, even though I'd choose her over any object in the world, we sort of understand that if she made me choose, she wouldn't be the girl I fell in love with. Mine is destructive, but only self-destructive. And then she rebuilds herself overnight. It's weird. She has a nuclear meltdown at night, and in the morning, it's like she's taller somehow. Rollercoaster!!!!!!

[Agent0028]

Hells bells Mikey, now I got the song "Love Rollercoaster" (or whatever the correct title is) stuck in my head. :lol

I hope everything works out for the best Kit.

[Mini-Rock]

I will say a prayer for you, and your collection Kit. :monkey3

[The ill Jedi]

Kit, I feel your pain; my girlfreind moved in about two years ago and just like your girl she started to exhibit all new behavior that I had never seen before. She too would become very irrational when it came to arguments and would become increasingly pissed off whenever I spoke the truth. On one occasion things got a little out of hand during an argument, she got pissed off at something I said and she held my Marvel Collector's Club Spider-Man Statue for ransom (AP no less!). The argument continued for a while and when it was over she dropped it on the carpet - she claims she didn't think it would break and I believe her - and it broke. She didn't throw it or smash it just sorta released it and unfortunatley it still broke.

The good thing is that now things are much better; we hardly ever argue anymore and we respect each others feelings and property. She's great about my collecting too and she even gets caught up in the hype whenever I get a great piece!

All I can say Kit is if you love her but just can't put up with her current attitude, have a long talk and tell her what's what. I did and it made a great difference. If you think she's a lost cause and that she will never change, then dump her fast and store your collection at a friends for a few days.

Either way, may the Force be with you!

The ill Jedi :vader

[revilal]

Sorry to hear your pain Kit...
Hope things works out.

An idea...
Just become a complete perv in the bedroom and think only of yourself. Then accidentally get caught with some PlayGirl mags... she'll dump you before you can say 'psycho' and she may even get you some polystone to ease the break-up :)

[KitFisto]

LOL, you guys are too much! :rotfl

We have been talking today. I am trying to get her to seek some anger management or something or it's just done. I think she has it in her to turn it around and she wants to, but she can't on her own as I have come to see.

Hopefully she will agree to anger management classes. If so Iam going to try to work it out. If not........the BOOT.

[Kookie]

Kit...I kinda feel bad for your fiance after you called her kid a brat.

I'm guessing she cares a lot about you and I would be really hurt if I knew my fiance was putting me and my kid down on a public form...just somethng to consider

I also would guess if you think I'm wrong she probably isn't the woman you would spend the rest of your life with. I'm not trying to insult you I just find the things you said about her distasteful

[KitFisto]

Kit...I kinda feel bad for your fiance after you called her kid a brat.

I'm guessing she cares a lot about you and I would be really hurt if I knew my fiance was putting me and my kid down on a public form...just somethng to consider

I also would guess if you think I'm wrong she probably isn't the woman you would spend the rest of your life with. I'm not trying to insult you I just find the things you said about her distasteful


Well Kookie, I find it distasteful to be called many names in front of her child because I asked her to take HER dog out to pee. I find it distastful to have expensive remote controls thrown into a wall and shattered because she's mad. I find it distatseful that her child looks me square in the face and says "NO, I am NOT doing what you say and I wish my mommy never met you!" every day because I tell her she has to brush her teeth or that she has to wear socks or a jacket when it's cold.

In short, she has severe anger managemnt issues and needs help for them and I came here to vent a little bit and I did that because I had a fear about my collection being destroyed for no other reason than uncontrolled anger.

[Kookie]

Sounds like a happy household in the KitFisto family. At least we know Jerry Springer will have more future guests.

[Darth Loki]

Kit,

Seriously dude, bail. Dealing with a psycho female is one thing. Having to deal with a pyscho female and a spoiled brat of a kid is another. Call you insurance agency, take pics, and cut your losses.

[KitFisto]

Sounds like a happy household in the KitFisto family. At least we know Jerry Springer will have more future guests.


Well, aren't you a classy guy? Sorry, but I don't play the game like she does or act that way, so I would be way too boring to be on Springer, but sounds like you watch all the time. Enjoy.

[King Darkness]

Kit...I kinda feel bad for your fiance after you called her kid a brat.

I'm guessing she cares a lot about you and I would be really hurt if I knew my fiance was putting me and my kid down on a public form...just somethng to consider

I also would guess if you think I'm wrong she probably isn't the woman you would spend the rest of your life with. I'm not trying to insult you I just find the things you said about her distasteful

Sounds like a happy household in the KitFisto family. At least we know Jerry Springer will have more future guests.

I think its wrong to judge kit here and call him "distasteful"....We dont know Kit, he did not use anyones name nor did he put up pictures of his girlfreind and her child...he merely discribed the situation he was in and asked for some input.....It is often times difficult to talk to people you and her both know and discuss what is going on....Kit came here for freindly advise....not to get judged or bad mouthed....This is often a place to talk about more than just collecting stuff....We have a community feeling here and like to keep it that way..So please be understanding of someones problems they may be having:peace

[KitFisto]

I think its wrong to judge kit here and call him "distasteful"....We dont know Kit, he did not use anyones name nor did he put up pictures of his girlfreind and her child...he merely discribed the situation he was in and asked for some input.....It is often times difficult to talk to people you and her both know and discuss what is going on....Kit came here for freindly advise....not to get judged or bad mouthed....This is often a place to talk about more than just collecting stuff....We have a community feeling here and like to keep it that way..So please be understanding of someones problems they may be having:peace


Thanks for the kind words. I came to vent and I thak those who gave the friendly input. It's a lousy situation to be in and sometimes it's easy to dump in a forum where you really don't "know" anyone and will get some friendly advice and a few funny one liners. Makes it a little more easy to deal with and some good advice is also given from some people who may have beebn through the same thing.

[King Darkness]

Thanks for the kind words. I came to vent and I thak those who gave the friendly input. It's a lousy situation to be in and sometimes it's easy to dump in a forum where you really don't "know" anyone and will get some friendly advice and a few funny one liners. Makes it a little more easy to deal with and some good advice is also given from some people who may have beebn through the same thing.

I know how hard relationships can be,as does everyone else, but talking about your problems is often harder than haveing them..so I just dont think its right to make those kind of comments unless you know the person or have been in his/hers situation.....

I would still go with the dressing in her clothes option:D

[Nessasita]

you can always say you still love her but you are coming out of the closet :D

And not all women are like that... what I worry about is that if I ever find a man that he will think I am some kinda freak with all the statues I have here... well I guess it will be... love me, love my statues :lol

But if he would break one... I will have to break him :D :lol

I even fired the cleaning lady because I told her do not touch my statues.. I will clean them myself... but she did not listen and broke my SDCC Gollum... I was not happy

I really hope things work out for you... and remember... not all women are ^^^^^es ;)

[KitFisto]

you can always say you still love her but you are coming out of the closet :D

And not all women are like that... what I worry about is that if I ever find a man that he will think I am some kinda freak with all the statues I have here... well I guess it will be... love me, love my statues :lol

But if he would break one... I will have to break him :D :lol

I even fired the cleaning lady because I told her do not touch my statues.. I will clean them myself... but she did not listen and broke my SDCC Gollum... I was not happy

I really hope things work out for you... and remember... not all women are ^^^^^es ;)


Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh, I wold have fired the cleaning lady over that too! I can see it now, I come home and my Sam and Bill are on the floor. I'd go nuts!

And yes, I know not all women are ^^^^^es...there are a lot of good ones, but finding one into LOTR and SW statue collecting is not easy!

[Darth Loki]

Yeah my girfriend likes my collection and she has her Twisted Rabbits but she's always wanting me to get more. Of course she doesn't have to pay for any of it. I think she just wants me to have as much credit card debt as her :monkey3

[KitFisto]

You don't want to know what my credit card debit is right now! It's all on ONE card though as I canceled my other 2 cards to prevent getting in too deep. With one card it's easy to make room and if I really wanted to stop spending money I could pay it off in less than a year.

[Darth Loki]

Well fortunately I have no debt at the moment, but if I can't control this collecting bug I may find myself there soon.

[carbo-fation]

Did someone say Credit card debt??? I am trying to pay off two credit cards but they keep getting charged every month from sideshow or other places. I am glad I'll be off college for summer break so i can work two jobs (not happy about that). I can't imagine what'll happen once GG, Leia and Hulk vs. Spidy arrive.

[Nessasita]

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh, I wold have fired the cleaning lady over that too! I can see it now, I come home and my Sam and Bill are on the floor. I'd go nuts!

And yes, I know not all women are ^^^^^es...there are a lot of good ones, but finding one into LOTR and SW statue collecting is not easy!


I know I am pretty unique :rotfl :lol

As for the debt... I never spend any money that I do not have and live by that rule... :D Then you do not get in a hole that you cannot get out of. Damn I spent almost a downpayment for a house on statues come to think of it :google :google :google

[Customikey]

Start a Figure Customizing and Head Painting business. That helps clean up the CC debt!:D

[carbo-fation]

Must be nice to have that kind of talent. But for those who were born "inferior," a credit card is sometimes the only way out. :monkey2

[GSRJedi]

it's a small world after all, check out this thread on RS (http://threads.rebelscum.com/showflat.php?Cat=&Number=1878577&page=0&view=collapsed&sb=5&o=&fpart=1#1878577), someone broke up with his girl and this is what she did.

[Agent0028]

Memo to me: Keep all collectibles in one room with a padlocked door to which only I have the key...

Of course then after a day or so I'll be going, "Damn where'd I put that bleepin' key"

[King Darkness]

it's a small world after all, check out this thread on RS (http://threads.rebelscum.com/showflat.php?Cat=&Number=1878577&page=0&view=collapsed&sb=5&o=&fpart=1#1878577), someone broke up with his girl and this is what she did.

Thats ****ed up....I dont know what I would do if my girlfreind did that....:monkey2 .....

[KitFisto]

I know I am pretty unique :rotfl :lol

As for the debt... I never spend any money that I do not have and live by that rule... :D Then you do not get in a hole that you cannot get out of. Damn I spent almost a downpayment for a house on statues come to think of it :google :google :google


Yeah, you're unique that's for sure......How are you single? LOL

I learned my lesson about the debt and that's why I have it all on ONE credit card. Where I got in trouble in the last was by having 3 cards with large credit ammounts. Never again.

[occulum]

I learned my lesson about the debt and that's why I have it all on ONE credit card. Where I got in trouble in the last was by having 3 cards with large credit ammounts. Never again.
I with you there!
converted to that about 3yrs back. 1 card, 1 bill. Much easier to manage.

[Nessasita]

Yeah, you're unique that's for sure......How are you single? LOL

I learned my lesson about the debt and that's why I have it all on ONE credit card. Where I got in trouble in the last was by having 3 cards with large credit ammounts. Never again.


All the single guys here in MA are hiding from me :lol :rotfl and working 7 days a week will keep a person single... or maybe it is just me.

See but even with only one credit card a person can get in trouble... I stick by my rule... I work hard so I can buy whatever I want and do not need to say thanks to anyone :D

[KitFisto]

All the single guys here in MA are hiding from me :lol :rotfl and working 7 days a week will keep a person single... or maybe it is just me.

See but even with only one credit card a person can get in trouble... I stick by my rule... I work hard so I can buy whatever I want and do not need to say thanks to anyone :D


Nah, they can't be hiding from you LOL. I think it's the working 7 days a week!

[KAOSINLA]

Change the locks quick.....have her friend come over to pick-up her things.

GOOD LUCK!!!

[don_of_the_dead]

Well,

Looks like I might bet kicking my fiance out in the new few weeks ( too many anger management issues and her kid is a brat beyond belief ). She has a bit of a bad temper and has broken things before ( remotes and such ). None of this stuff surfaced before she moved in. I pray I don't come home and find my Starw Wars, LOTR and other stuff all smashed as she knows what it all means to me.

If anything gets destroyed I will be sure to post pics of the carnage. I am going to try to be home when and if it comes to her leaving so I can make sure nothing gets trashed.

Dude, HIDE your stuff that would be tough/$$$ to replace, especially a day or 2 before you give her the boot.
If she DOES trash your stuff, do not be afraid to sue her to replace them.

[Darth Loki]

Kit, did you look into getting your stuff insured? It's probably worth it anyway. I'm going to do it through my insurance company next week when I have my Maul bust.

[wizard-comics]

a few problems I see wiht this:

she has been living with you for 9 months...this anger issue should of been brought up before that.....

she has a kid! that is just a bad situation to get yourself involved in......future reference.......don't have a women move in with a kid unless you plan on marrying her.......her doing that in the first place should of put a red light up on her character...... one guy mentioned the whole ask her to get married thing to spook her........That could totally backfire.....not a good thing to do if your wanting to avoid the whole anger issue


you have to come up with a strategy...

you want her to decided to leave you....and in a way that will not triger her anger.......you'll have to understand her feelings towards you more...do you think she ACTUALLY loves you? stand by you through anything?...that will help in your strategy....

a few things that might make her leave (granted I don't know her):

.....tell her you think you might be gay...although it could backfire because she might want you two to turn into "Will and Grace" and you won't be able to get her out of your life

.....not sure what your job is but...your getting a Job transfer out of state....that would involving moving though...and she might want to tag along

.....fake your death.....:lol (again involving moving and complete change)

.....start acting differently around her, but not so much as to ignite her anger...just become a different person that she no longer want to waste her time around... so she will want to leave you

.....like I said I don't know her...maybe if you didn't make as much money she might hit the road?.....tell her you got demoted, and act like you don't care...start living like a tight wad...but keep spending money on your statues and hobbie...


these are jsut some thoughts

[Darth Loki]

Or you could get your stuff insured and get rid of the psycho. Make sure you have a friend or two over when she does get her stuff out though.

[Shai Hulud]

BUMP !!!!!


:lol:lol:lol:lol:lol:lol:lol:lol

[lcummins]

This thread was bumped for the wrong reasons, so I'm locking it now!